It Takes Balls to Be a Writer

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The day I decided to really pursue my dream of becoming a writer was equal parts “You’re a genius” and “Oh god, what if my parents read it?” I can’t even imagine the phase erotic novelists go through, when they decide to put their reputation on the line and let loved ones read their dirty work.

Granted, I don’t write erotica. But there’s a certain amount of fear associated with going public with your writing – a fear that I had no idea existed until I received word that some of my work would be published.

This moment went about the way I imagined.

A squeal. An onslaught of text messages. A Facebook status update. Everything was wonderful and I was up in the clouds until… I realized being published means that people can actually read your work.

My writing has always been private. Since college I have joined several critique groups, but even still, my writing doesn’t make it past 10-15 sets of eyes. My pieces have never gone WORLDWIDE on the Interwebs.

This… this is a whole new level of transparency.

And that’s when I realized that writing takes balls. It’s one thing to write your heart out, it’s another thing to show it to someone.

I started to make a mistake once people congratulated me on my achievement. I started conceding my accomplishments with excuses. I said that my writing wasn’t what I normally wrote. That it was extra snarky and I didn’t know if people would like it.

But what I realized is that apologizing for expressing yourself violates the basic reason to write. It is an art form. I never heard J.K. Rowling apologize for putting witchcraft in her books. And I’m not going to apologize for what comes from me freely, whether it is something raw and gritty and transparent, or something light-hearted and sarcastic.

All of my writing is a facet of me.  And going public just means owning who you are, and what you’re capable of.

-Dani Nicole

3 thoughts on “It Takes Balls to Be a Writer

  1. AGentleandQuietSpirit

    It’s amazing how terrifying it is. Even after over ten years of writing I still get that giddy feeling when I send my work to beta readers. I can only imagine it’s a billion times worse when you get published! Congrats, again!!! 🙂

  2. Josh Magill

    Stepping out on to that ledge is terrifying. The first time I was published I didn’t want to tell anyone. After many years, I still don’t tell my co-workers. Writing is your soul and you’re afraid it will get stomped on by someone if you expose it–a normal reaction, but one to overcome in order to show the world your greatness.

  3. passtheprose Post author

    Abby, I don’t think that feeling ever goes away!

    Josh – how true! I told everyone immediately, then I started processing the fact that they all actually wanted to read it! Hah. I still try to tell people, because it’s one of the main reasons I write – to share my stories.

    Thank you for your comments!
    Dani Nicole @ passtheprose


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